You wouldn’t believe how much I hear this story, from teenagers and parents. Some people get “love drunk” and lose their identity as they change to make another person happy. Some times they know that the person they are dating is bad for them but they have a fear of being alone. Many times they will date people who they’d never marry. You might be thinking, “whoa whoa, what are you talking about...I am just dating dude!!” Um news flash, dating is taking applications for marriage! If you don’t want to marry someone who is unfaithful, someone who drinks, or someone who smokes, why would you date them? The Bible tells us that we should not be unequally tied together to people who aren’t believers. Imagine if you were pulling a cart but your boyfriend/girlfriend was going the opposite direction, it’d be super hard to get anywhere! The Bible tells us to date believers ONLY and it DOESN’T support missionary dating...You know what I mean, dating people who aren’t believers and trying to change them. Usually the Christian in this situation ends up with the short end of the stick! Would you be the type of person Jesus would date? The type of person that would make his walk with God stronger. One who prays with Him, who does Bible study with him? Do you put God first in your dating relationship? Do you do things in private that you would be embarrassed to do on Sunday morning in front of the entire packed out church with your friends and family watching? Don’t forget that God always sees us even when we think he doesn’t! Learn to put God first, and you will have the relationship God wants you to have.
Before Adam and Eve messed up in the garden of Eden, man-kind was perfect. Adam and Eve sinned against God so we needed a new example. God sent his son Jesus to earth to be our example. When Jesus came he set the standard of what we are now suppose to be.
Throughout Jesus’ life He only did what God would be pleased with. So if we are called Christians, which means “followers of Christ”, we are to be like Jesus. We are to make God #1 in all areas of our lives. This includes our dating life. Jesus died on the cross for our sins, and now we should have a new relationship with sin. We should be dead to sin or sin should be dead to us!!! (Romans 6:1-2, Romans 6:11, 1 Peter 2:24) The things we once did, we don’t do anymore after we repent of our sins (Matt 6:12, Acts 3:19, Acts 17:30) . Repent means to turn from our sins and ask God to forgive you and make it a point to never want or do those things in your life ever again. After this 2 Cor 5:17 says that you are a new creature. Everything is new, all things are passed away.
So living as a new creature, justified with God (justified means that now you are on good terms with God) What kind of person would you date? You would date someone who has done the same thing as you. Who has repented of their sins and is now a disciple of Christ. A person who helps you grow as a Christian. This is who Jesus would date.